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You Didn't Fail, You Leveled Up!
If you take one concept from my content, its this:
The key to recovery- and happiness- is reframing how you interpret (respond to) life experience.
The only difference between someone who has a substantial amount of abstinent time and someone who is caught up in the relapse cycle is the abili...
May 26, 2025
addiction recovery
chemsex
crystal methamphetamine
lgbtq
ADHD and Chemsex Addiction
Let me be vulnerable with you:
I've discovered lately that I sometimes invalidate the experiences of others.
And if you follow my content, you'll know how much I've advised you not to invalide the experience of others.
Because, what we judge becomes our karma (our learning opportunity).
In oth...
May 22, 2025
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addiction recovery
adhd
crystal methamphetamine
The Ultimate Recover Life-Hack
I woke up but kept my eyes closed.
I was lying on top of the blankets because the sheets were soiled, but not from me.
The sound of booming bass and laughter from the parking lot at 6am might seem abnormal in most situations.
Not at the Greenleaf Inn.
My home away from home: the streets.
...
May 19, 2025
addiction recovery
crystal methamphetamine
lgbtq
mindfulness
From Teacher to Tweaker: Bobby's Story
So happy to introduce you to my new Assistant Coach, Bobby!
On this week's episode, you'll get to hear his story AND hear the two of us offer coaching advice to real listener letters.
Bobby's powerful story of facing arrest, finding peace in surrender, and rebuilding his life offers insights fo...
May 15, 2025
addiction
addiction recovery
crystal methampetamine
lgbtq
How Perfectionism Fuels Meth Use
(This is a long one, but - in my opinion - worth the time AND if you are enjoying my newsletters, please forward to someone who might also enjoy!)
You want to stop using meth?
You want to stop fighting urges?
You want to stop repeating patterns?
Then you must dig deep into the core of your suf...
May 12, 2025
addiction recovery
childhood trauma
lgbtq
perfectionism
Sexual Intimacy Through Dance
"Embodiment to me is deep listening to the signals that my body gives me around what's right and wrong for my life." - Gary
Our bodies are always speaking to us.
Tightness in the chest, upset stomach, swollen throat...
Anything we feel in the physical is a message from our spirit.
But, most ...
May 08, 2025
addiction recovery
chemsex
conscious dance
erotic dance
gbtq
methamphetamine
Become a Disciple of Your Higher Self
Discipline isn't punishment.
It's not shame.
It's not even about willpower.
Real discipline is about loving yourself enough to create conditions where you can truly thrive.
It's about making small promises to yourself and keeping them.
It's about building trust with the one person who will be ...
May 05, 2025
Contingency Management
The first time I heard the term "Harm Reduction" was from a straight male meth dealer.
I was later in my active use when my mom brought me to West Virginia to get my life together.
This guy needed someone who could 'hit a vein,' and I needed free drugs. So, our relationship was transactional and...
May 01, 2025
addiction
contingency management
harm reduction
methamphetamine
recovery
Stop Playing the Victim!
We often think about narcissists being master manipulators. And, well, they are.
But, in my experience, those who position themselves as the perpetual victim are the true masters.
You can tell right away by someone's conversation if they accept the victim role in their lives:
"My boyfriends we...
Apr 28, 2025
addiction recovery
crystal methamphetamine
lgbtq
victim triangle
Attachment Styles and Chemsex Addiction
There's something so exciting about the texting dance that occurs after you match with someone from a dating app (at least the ones who are able to carry on a conversation).
I guess you could say it's the modern version of "courtin'."
I used to love sharing and learning with new matches. At one ...
Apr 24, 2025
addiction
attachment style
crystal methamphetamine
lgbtq
recovery
Wake Up and Take Control
Most of this world is asleep.
Wake up. Scroll. Gym. Work. Scroll. Netflix. Sleep.
What a life.
The average person who grew up in suburbia, graduated from college, was employed by a corporation, married, had kids...
I often wonder how they could ever know what it's like to smoke a bowl of meth a...
Apr 21, 2025
crystal methamphetamine
lgbtq
meth
recovery
CORRECTED LINKS: Do You Believe in Love After Meth?
TECHNICAL DIFFICULTIES WITH THE PODCAST LINKS IN THE FIRST EMAIL- THIS ONE WORKS!
I need you to know that there really is sex after meth.
Good sex.
Great sex.
And, better yet, there is looooove after meth.
But don't take my word for it!
In this episode, Dave Becker shares his journey of redis...
Apr 17, 2025
addiction
crystal methamphetamine
lgbtq
sexual healing
sexual health
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